52 Personal Truths From 2016

52-surprising-lessons

I’ve learned a lot about myself, business and the world. Here are 52 things that I discovered in 2016. One for every week of the year. Be inspired in 2017.

  1. Be comfortable with not being perfect
  2. Hard work will pay off
  3. You’ve always been good enough
  4. Life has a memory and it usually remembers in your favour
  5. Your true friends see you for who you really are, and stay
  6. You can do anything if you are passionate, focused and stubborn as hell
  7. Your children watch how you react in stressful times, ensure they learn to cope with lives troughs
  8. Your children watch how you celebrate successes, let them see it’s OK to pat yourself on the back and have a good time
  9. There is a wealth of support out there but sometimes, you are “in there” and can’t see what’s out there – come out
  10. Avoid speaking ill of others because you never know their circumstance, who’s listening and you probably seem just as outrageous to them anyway
  11. If someone speaks about someone else, they probably speak to someone else about you
  12. When you get one good idea, watch out! You’ve opened the flood gates, for you will never be short of ideas again!
  13. Listening is a skill that very few people have. You think you listen but you really don’t
  14. The closer you get to someone, the more you see their flaws instead of what makes them beautiful. Be the person who loves unconditionally
  15. People don’t always say what they really think. In fact, being straight-talking is a character trait as rare as unicorns
  16. Don’t underestimate how easy it is to be manipulated – take care of your mind
  17. You don’t have to be friends with everybody but you can still care about everybody so that our world is a caring place
  18. When you hear gossip, let it stop with you – don’t pass it on!
  19. Starting a business is one of the hardest things a person can do
  20. Being a perfectionist is bad for business
  21. Find a challenge you have, and you may have found a new business idea
  22. Sometimes we try really hard and it still doesn’t work – and that’s OK
  23. Love fully and completely – remember life’s memory…
  24. Some friends are not always there but when they are, they light up your day
  25. Be willing to be wrong about the big things and the little things
  26. In reality, you know very little about the world. You’re probably in for a surprise at the end of it all
  27. If you never take a risk, nothing will ever change
  28. You can’t help everybody but you can pray for everybody
  29. Persistence is cumulative. One day, that wall will come tumbling down – keep going!
  30. It’s OK to feel frustrated and exhausted. Just don’t remain frustrated and exhausted
  31. Have at least one person in your life who is straight-talking. It’s like having a unicorn in your garden 🙂
  32. Be passionate in whatever to do. You never know who you’re inspiring
  33. Aspire to be the best You possible. Forget being someone else
  34. You can’t please everyone, and you should never try
  35. There are few things as rejuvenating as an hour of pure thinking time
  36. Hanging out with certain people could be all the inspiration you need
  37. Hanging out with certain people could be all the frustration you need
  38. Most people want to connect with you on a deeper level. If they can’t, they won’t stick around no matter how brilliant, attractive or rich you are
  39. It’s not clear what the future holds but try everyday, to show up that future. It could be amazing!
  40. People who treat you with contempt don’t know your future, just one of their many blind spots
  41. Don’t believe everything you hear. Find things out for yourself
  42. You have instincts for a reason, don’t ignore them
  43. Record the good things that happen to you because it comes in handy when you’re having a bad day
  44. It’s possible to trust someone you’ve never met
  45. It’s possible to mistrust someone you often meet
  46. Take care of your body. It’s the one place you’ll need to live in till you’re gone
  47. The human race is not about who gets there first. It’s about becoming a better person as a result of the journey
  48. You never know your own strength until a situation puts you to the test
  49. Don’t underestimate the power of good habits, they build good character
  50. Be the person that people can confide in. People will respect you for your discretion
  51. Show passion, smile, be the good vibe that people want to be around
  52. Negative people will be negative about every and any thing. Ignore them and get on with being happy
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I think I’m Out of Juice: One Side of the Story

Here's one side of the story

 I think it’s a good idea to give at least part of the story. There are many reasons why I’ve not been myself on the blog. My mind is clogged with “stuff”. I have a business research paper to write – and to do that I have read, read then investigate, read then draw some insightful conclusions from my findings. In a strange way, I’m looking forward to it, discovering my appetite increasing with every new thing I read (ok it’s not that strange if you know me at all). I’m also chewing over some interesting projects at work- that coupled with my increased commute to and from work (went from 30 minutes both ways to an hour and a half after I moved home in December). That’s one side of the story.

 

It’s fair to say that I have therefore found myself “out of juice”. I occasionally have a fragment of a blog post idea but it flutters away by the time I get to my screen. On rare occasions, I articulate a small fraction of what I mean – then with a tinge of disappointment (I actually squeeze my nose as if there’s a bad smell), I post it. Perhaps the other side of the story is that I don’t have much to say anymore but I’m hoping that’s not the case. Have I bled myself dry of sensible and senseless posts and now in a decline into nothing and nothingness? It certainly sounds like it to me.

 

In any case, I won’t give up just yet. I’ll give myself time to do this “famous” research paper. I’ll recover from using 10% of my daily waking hours to drive – or maybe I just suck it up and get used to it (it’s not that bad, Londoners have it much worse). The driving hours may even do me good. Ideas tend to come on that long narrow country road. I’ve toyed with the idea of a voice recorder to capture my fleeting thoughts whether it’s the gospel or rubbish. Although, doing that as I drive may will be a driving hazard. Sigh.

 

What I’m really trying to say is if you don’t see me around there often, I definitely not dead – just in over my head. At least, you know one side of the story. Hopefully, the other side will be just as plausible.

What about Post A Week didn’t I understand?

I’ve steered off course and now have too many balls in the air. I’m exhausted physically and back to my old ways of not enjoying and appreciating the precious moments I have. I should be ashamed.

Fortunately, I find that doing these “reviews” of my progress generally prevents me from going too far in the wrong direction. The symptoms have amplified over the last few weeks. When I’m reading to catch up on my studies, my mind strays to the possibilities of my next blog post. When I’m writing my next post, my head does permutations of strategic options for my current marketing campaigns at work. I worry that I’ve taken on too much and I see no escape in sight. Therefore, I’ve revisited my application for Post A Week on WordPress. Since I started in January, I have been posting at least 2 times a week consistently because of my impulse to give 110% to everything. I don’t regret it– it got me closer to my readers. However, it’s post a week, ladies and gentlemen. I will only post a week from now on.

I may be talking rubbish. You may indeed find me posting thrice a week at some point. It will mean that I’m back to my old self-frustrating ways. Most people run on blood but once in a while, I get a drum of diesel. Like a wind-up doll, I can be impulsive, energetic and unstoppable until of course, the wind gets knock out of me.  I want to be reaffirmed in who I am not what I do or achieve.Welcome to an instalment of one of those times when I run out of my diesel and reach for a pint of blood.

2011: Good habits as a state of mind

Past results

It’s almost 2011 and like every year since I was 13, I am thinking about what new resolutions I should endorse. I am not original in the slightest. My resolutions are usually made up of things I will start doing e.g. calling home more or swimming at least once a week or simply telling myself to take better care of myself (I know I shouldn’t need to tell myself that but there you have it). I never give much thought to how I’m going to achieve these things. Sure enough, I score less than 50% at the end of the year and end up feeling daft.

What to change

This year I want to form habits, good solid habits that I believe will make the next one-third of my life better than the preceding years. If I take little steps, I may indeed find it easier to be kinder to myself all round. I have read that a good  mental state, free from worry, can lengthen life expectancy. I’m talking about being happy with where I am, be it at home or at work. It’s about taking each day at a time and worrying less about the things I cannot change. So if I make a resolution like”Worry less”, it’s unlikely to help. I have to create habits that I will practice in bite sizes throughout 2011. I am inspired by The Simple Mom and a book I once read called, ‘Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (and it’s all small stuff)’ by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. I actually read this book twice.

Be of a sound mind, soul and body in 2011(photo courtesy of http://www.istockphoto.com)

What habits?

I will break down my resolution into key action habits. Just to reiterate, the resolution is to take better care of my mind, soul and body. I reckon that cultivating one habit will take four to eight weeks to master and there will be several habits that need mastering so there are lots to work on in 2011. These will include but are not limited to:

  1. Starting and ending the day with prayer (no matter how hectic!)
  2. Having breakfast everyday
  3. Nurturing my friendships
  4. Playing golf more often
  5. Finding another sport to be passionate about (snowboarding?)
  6. Reminding myself everyday that I have every reason to be happy (I do!)

And I will generally stay positive and encouraged within myself. I have found that life seems to be constructed to bring people down. There are always those that will discourage you and there will be situations that make me want to give up. In 2010, I achieved a lot at home, in my studies and at work. I will continue to push back at life to achieve more in 2011. Maybe I will even stumble onto that business idea. Who knows? I am turning deaf ears to the government cuts in the UK and the predictions of doom. Good habits for my mind, soul and body are here to stay.

Inspiration:

New Year – New You! The Path to Successful New Year’s Resolutions « The Simple Mom.

Busy bee me

Eventually, I have to stop. Being busy constantly will either give me a nervous break down or lead me very far in the wrong direction. Lurking behind it all may be the need to feel important and useful. I don’t think it is such a bad thing though and I am really putting myself out there by saying this. For example, I want to work internationally, be an entrepreneur, be a good mother and wife as well as improve my golf (I don’t even have a handicap at the moment! I’m that bad.)! On some days, I’d like to work with a charity especially a children’s charity. I can’t do it all, I know, even if live to be a 100. But it’s the thought that counts. Hopefully, I’m taking the necessary steps to give me some level of independence later in life. I do LOVE life and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to experience it all and leave your mark.

Busy Woman

It piles up (photo from istockphoto.com, 2010)

Sometimes it appears that it comes at a steep price. For me, the price is mostly paid in guilt. Guilt that I shouldn’t be dropping my kids off at a nursery and/or leaving them at after  school club till 5pm on some week days. Or that we can’t have a home-made dinner every night. Alas, the guilt comes and goes. I am especially grateful that over the last year or so, I have made some progress in striking a balance. I have not fully arrived, far from it but I think the following tips on finding a balance have gone a long way to keep me out of the asylum:

  • Have a date night with your partner/ spouse at least once week. It could be a movie and/or dinner in or out. WITHOUT the kids/blackberries/iphones etc.
  • Try not to take work home (and don’t talk about work constantly either).
  • Occasionally ask yourself, if all else fails, who will be left? Your answer will probably be your family, friends…not your co-workers or boss.
  • Go out of your way to be there for the “important” stuff: birthdays, anniversaries, doctor’s appointments, schools plays etc.
  • Re-prioritise as often as required.
  • YOUR JOB IS… JUST A JOB <thanks for this one, Bryan :-)>

It is beyond my comprehension that some day I will retire and stay home. I wouldn’t last a week! But it is good to be kind to yourself and take a break. All semi-new to me.

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