52 Personal Truths From 2016

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I’ve learned a lot about myself, business and the world. Here are 52 things that I discovered in 2016. One for every week of the year. Be inspired in 2017.

  1. Be comfortable with not being perfect
  2. Hard work will pay off
  3. You’ve always been good enough
  4. Life has a memory and it usually remembers in your favour
  5. Your true friends see you for who you really are, and stay
  6. You can do anything if you are passionate, focused and stubborn as hell
  7. Your children watch how you react in stressful times, ensure they learn to cope with lives troughs
  8. Your children watch how you celebrate successes, let them see it’s OK to pat yourself on the back and have a good time
  9. There is a wealth of support out there but sometimes, you are “in there” and can’t see what’s out there – come out
  10. Avoid speaking ill of others because you never know their circumstance, who’s listening and you probably seem just as outrageous to them anyway
  11. If someone speaks about someone else, they probably speak to someone else about you
  12. When you get one good idea, watch out! You’ve opened the flood gates, for you will never be short of ideas again!
  13. Listening is a skill that very few people have. You think you listen but you really don’t
  14. The closer you get to someone, the more you see their flaws instead of what makes them beautiful. Be the person who loves unconditionally
  15. People don’t always say what they really think. In fact, being straight-talking is a character trait as rare as unicorns
  16. Don’t underestimate how easy it is to be manipulated – take care of your mind
  17. You don’t have to be friends with everybody but you can still care about everybody so that our world is a caring place
  18. When you hear gossip, let it stop with you – don’t pass it on!
  19. Starting a business is one of the hardest things a person can do
  20. Being a perfectionist is bad for business
  21. Find a challenge you have, and you may have found a new business idea
  22. Sometimes we try really hard and it still doesn’t work – and that’s OK
  23. Love fully and completely – remember life’s memory…
  24. Some friends are not always there but when they are, they light up your day
  25. Be willing to be wrong about the big things and the little things
  26. In reality, you know very little about the world. You’re probably in for a surprise at the end of it all
  27. If you never take a risk, nothing will ever change
  28. You can’t help everybody but you can pray for everybody
  29. Persistence is cumulative. One day, that wall will come tumbling down – keep going!
  30. It’s OK to feel frustrated and exhausted. Just don’t remain frustrated and exhausted
  31. Have at least one person in your life who is straight-talking. It’s like having a unicorn in your garden 🙂
  32. Be passionate in whatever to do. You never know who you’re inspiring
  33. Aspire to be the best You possible. Forget being someone else
  34. You can’t please everyone, and you should never try
  35. There are few things as rejuvenating as an hour of pure thinking time
  36. Hanging out with certain people could be all the inspiration you need
  37. Hanging out with certain people could be all the frustration you need
  38. Most people want to connect with you on a deeper level. If they can’t, they won’t stick around no matter how brilliant, attractive or rich you are
  39. It’s not clear what the future holds but try everyday, to show up that future. It could be amazing!
  40. People who treat you with contempt don’t know your future, just one of their many blind spots
  41. Don’t believe everything you hear. Find things out for yourself
  42. You have instincts for a reason, don’t ignore them
  43. Record the good things that happen to you because it comes in handy when you’re having a bad day
  44. It’s possible to trust someone you’ve never met
  45. It’s possible to mistrust someone you often meet
  46. Take care of your body. It’s the one place you’ll need to live in till you’re gone
  47. The human race is not about who gets there first. It’s about becoming a better person as a result of the journey
  48. You never know your own strength until a situation puts you to the test
  49. Don’t underestimate the power of good habits, they build good character
  50. Be the person that people can confide in. People will respect you for your discretion
  51. Show passion, smile, be the good vibe that people want to be around
  52. Negative people will be negative about every and any thing. Ignore them and get on with being happy
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Change: This Post Is About Me

I’ve been thinking about Change recently – mostly because of my research work. It occurred to me how much I had changed. It hasn’t been a deliberately change, at least I haven’t been conscious of it until now. I’m mildly amused by this. But at other times, I’m devastated that I’ve changed so much.

It was always like I was a bird dying to be free. I was very friendly, conscientious and eager to explore. When I spoke to people, I looked them in the eye and I picked almost every vibe they sent. If I sensed a “negative” vibe, I tried harder to be liked. I constantly questioned my validity and I was generally convinced that if I kept trying, everyone would try too… But we all know life isn’t quite like that. Sometimes, some people try. And other times, no one tries. I can’t remember the exact moment or even the year, but somewhere along the line, I stopped trying. Well, not entirely but you know, I just got exhausted such that I didn’t look everyone in the eye. I wanted “negative” vibes to go over my head. To be honest, I still pick them up. But I don’t respond with a “warmer” me or even a more “likeable” me. I think I stopped caring.

Nevertheless, part of me wanted this. I remember many times in my teens and my 20s wishing that I wasn’t so perceptive. I wanted to be stronger, harder…blinder. Be careful what you wish for, as they say.

I’m still a bird with wings. These days I go about my business with my wings clipped half the time. I notice a thing or two but I generally ignore it. Sometimes, I need to speak to myself, ‘Walk away.” It should be all great now, right? No rejection, fewer clashes with other humans… But it’s just this feeling that I keep having. This feeling that I was made to be friendly, and get to the bottom of people. That I need to be perceptive and look people in the eye even if they are frowning and there’s very little guarantee that they’ll return my friendliness with grace. I haven’t been sure what to do with this feeling. After all, I’ve already “changed”. It may have been to protect myself or may be it’s how people grow up.

Now, I’m drawing from learning cycles. A virtuous cycle always goes back and re-evaluates, makes an assessment and then modifications. So I find myself in a strangely stronger position with this discovery. Stronger, because I can tap into my old self at will. I can actively decide when to turn it off and on. I have more control and there’s less of a need to be everything to everybody. At times, I’m awkward with some people – and that’s fine. Yes, it’s fine to be awkward if the situation warrants it – or when I just need to make a point.

The problem has been that too many people mistake friendliness for stupidity. I’m glad I’m maturing and learning (again) to be myself. Changing is hard enough. Try changing back! This cycle may well go around a few times…

What about you have you changed – then wished you didn’t?

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