Tell me your dreams

‘What do you want to do?’

I’ve sat across several managers and HR folks in my career who asked me this question. It took me until recently to begin to design my ideal career,  in fact my ideal LIFE. Because when you’re passionate about what you do, it is your life.

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Photo by Pai Shih (‘Crystal Ball’)

Part of making your dreams come true is to design what your life will look like in the new state. You cannot isolate it. You need to decide what days you’ll work,  how much vacation you’d like and whether you want to have time to volunteer at a charity for instance.


If you are thinking about your dream career, allow me challenge you. What does your dream life look like?  Draw it.  Tabulate it.  Scribble it on a napkin.


On a personal note, 2015 has been a surprise. I wrote my first business book,  which is out in the new year, something that a year ago,  I hadn’t expected  to achieve just yet. I’ve received incredible support,  I am completely overwhelmed.

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My book cover – out in print and kindle in Jan 2016

There have been many other wins,  big and small.  I planned my ideal life and it finally looks possible. Through great coaching by the amazing Clare McNamara at Move Ahead Global,  I understand the things that stand in my way. I also know that it’s all in my head. Like thinking that I need to have all the right answers to be an expert. I realise now that what I’m great at is asking the right questions.

Here are some considerations
for anyone hoping to make changes in 2016,  be it a dream to break away from a loveless career or to turn your passion into a venture.

You have something in you that when identified and nurtured,  will make you unstoppable. Unbeatable. Everyone has this. Sometimes it’s obvious. An incredible singing voice. An ability to draw or paint like Van Gogh. Other times, it’s less obvious. An eye for beautiful design. An ability to mediate in high conflict situations. What is in you?

You can do anything you set your mind to. The issue isn’t that you can’t make your dreams come true. It’s that you think you need to do it in a particular way. There’s no prescribed way to become an entrepreneur or a writer or an artist. Do it your way. Aside from working, what’s your ideal life:  School runs, coffee with friends, mid-week football, the local community hall meeting? Why not? It’s YOUR schedule! What do you need to be able to do to achieve your dreams?

Now it’s your turn to change things in 2016:

‘What do you want to do?’



  1. My focus for 2016 is ‘connections’ – mostly connections with people (starting with my kids who are growing way TOO FAST), but also places, ideas and so on.

    My main obstacle is not saying ‘No’ enough. I have FOMO, plus I am a pleaser. But not saying no means that I ended up working on what is important for others, rather than what is important for me.

    PS – Congratulations on the book. All that experience bodes well for the PhD writing-up 😉

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  2. Congratulations on the book, Kemi. I will check it out when it is released. Whilst I am no longer in the driving seat in an organisation (or even sat checking the map anymore) Mrs. Monkey is and she doesn’t get the whole social media thing. I also love your title. Very inviting.
    Some of my friends say that I’m living the dream and maybe I am. 6 months on 6 months off. But the “off” period brings with it the challenges of what to do with your time. I’ve survived a deadline driven career and it’s hard to shake off the mindset of setting yourself deadlines and hence creating your own stress. Your post is thought provoking. I’m off the gym to train for this years Spain ride and give some careful consideration to what my new deadline free life should look like.

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    • Six months on and six months off?! Love your switches! I’m addicted to deadlines too and I’m not sure I can change that. All I can do is ensure these deadlines are mine and not imposed by someone else’s idea of what’s important. That’ll be progress. Can’t keep being a slave to the rhythm (thanks, Grace Jones!). When’s the Spain ride? Not that I’m trying to uncover your deadline 😉


  3. Kem, my Dear, am so proud of you, of who you are becoming and of the greater good ahead of you. Thank you for finding out and embracing your passion on this journey of life. There is surely no stopping you. You, my friend are an inspiration. Thank you.


  4. Thank you Kemi for visiting my blog. 🙂

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