The bitter-sweet taste of growing up

All this ageing tastes kinda funny (courtesy of free images)

My 20s were difficult. Lots of stabbing in the dark and wrestling….mostly with myself, made for an exhausting era. In my post, ‘Arguably the right side of 30’, I expressed my relief at changing a few of my long-held beliefs.

However, I must confess that although it’s easier overall, I have some poignant concerns. Much of these concerns are out of my control so I’ll need to tap into my core (which should be more or less solid by now) to overcome the challenges. Some obvious concerns are:

  • My parents are growing old and I’m not ready to lose them (there, I said it).
  • My children will grow away from me and stop thinking I’m cool (the truth will out).
  • I dread the day a real strand of white hair appears on my head.
  • I meet more and more people younger than me (at the moment, it is pretty much 50-50).

I don’t want to get myself into a state so I’ll do the sensible thing and hope I age gracefully, physically, mentally and emotionally. The wisdom that comes with age is what I crave the most. It’s just some of the consequences I’d prefer to live without. On the plus side, I’m looking forward to a long list of great things such as:

  • Learning Spanish (I’ve decided to leave French alone).
  • Finishing my MBA (I’m halfway there).
  • Raising my kids to be adults (My son wants to be a pilot. Yes!)
  • Gaining more credibility and experience in my profession
  • Being able to mentor younger professionals (especially women, ethic minorities)
  • Exercising more as I just discovered the joys of the treadmill (My best ideas are formed there)
  • Looking back at the past and feeling no pain at all
  • Witnessing my little brother get married

These clearly outweigh my concerns. Yuppie! Life is GREAT :).


  1. Looking back at the past and feeling no pain…
    great goal for me too …


  2. Like the new look of your blog :).

    One day I woke up and realised something about ageing that gave me another perspective; at 25 I realised many younger than me would not see that age; at 30 I knew many would not make it past 25; at 35 I completely understood why people say the more you age the more you become wise.


  3. New look looks good ! And a great positive post, K. Well done. 🙂


  4. yes, I like your new web-design too, compliment for this choice!


  5. Great attitude. As one who is much older than you, I can tell you it’s not as scary as you might think. The only thing that bothers me is the first 20 steps in the morning when I am sure I am walking on someone else’s legs since I am surely too young for my knees to hurt!

    The web design looks fresh, cool, and professional. Just like you. 🙂


  6. The trick to aging gracefully, I think, is accept that you can get older without BEING old. Age is more than a state of mind, but your state of mind has a lot to do with how old you feel. I think you’re on the right track.


  7. Hey K, great post (as always!). Your last concern really cracked me up. Over the last two to three years, I’ve had a single strand of grey hair I’ve nurtured like a baby. I think I over pampered it because now it’s invited a few friends and they won’t leave 🙂 I thought I would freak out when the greys became obvious but honestly, I feel fine with them.

    My biggest concern about growing older is my parents are also getting older, much older than I’d like them to be. As for my kids, in my mind, I’ll always be mummy to them.


    • Hi babe- I hope I’m like you and I don’t freak out when I see grey hairs! Actually, I may already have some but I’ve been too scared to go looking for them… You’re right- I know I’ll always be mummy to my kids-just ageing jitters, I guess :). Ciao!


  8. Super post! I’ll be back.


  9. Wanna be my mentor? 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Love the new look of the blog! 🙂


  10. I wrote, i believe just about the same words, about thre decades ago. I can’t locate where I kept the scapbook in which I wrote them. There have been ups and downs since then, but on the whole it has been satisfying, especially since the agenda is sound and foolproof, I can vouchsafe for you.


    • Hi VK, it’ll be great if you could get your hands on your scrapbook. I can only imagine all the wisdom and mysteries inside. Thanks for stopping by :).


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